Mar 25

Author : Paula EderTime management tips boost your self-confidence when you use them to harness thoughts to effectively manage your time Your first step is re-channeling energy that is funneled into self-critical messages

Critical messages sap your energy, confidence, and creativity Because they distract you, they can sabotage your best work, creating a vicious self-fulfilling prophecy Fortunately, they can only interfere if you allow them to

So, how do you start building self-confidence through overcoming your Inner Critic? Begin with practicing these 3 strategies to quiet those critical messages You will experience the delicious pleasure of tapping your inner power as you move throughout your day!

3 Strategies to Conquer Your Inner Critic

1) Slow down and recognize the voice of the Inner Critic

Catching the voice of the Inner Critic “in the act” is a vitally important
accomplishment Like diagnosing a cancer in its early stages, zeroing in on your critical voice before it sabotages you provides you with time and power to neutralize it quickly You may have become so used to these messages that they form a toxic backdrop to your life It is crucial to slow down and develop the capacity to recognize this voice when it appears Practice writing down the critical messages that you give yourself You’ll slowly come to recognize the tone and the themes of this voice The critical voice is not very creative, nor is it very interesting You’ll probably quickly come to recognize its patterns and cadences Then the trick is to spot it in the moment!

2) Once you recognize your Inner Critic’s voice, simply name it

This may sound obvious, but it’s very important Tell yourself calmly, “Oh, there is my critical voice talking ” Naming it is a quiet step toward separating yourself from this voice In naming it, you are building self-confidence by subtly claiming your own power to isolate faultfinding and reject it Your inner critical messages hold power only when you believe them and react to them Recognizing and naming the source helps you to see that the messages you are giving yourself are tainted and not to be taken to heart

3) Don’t be reactive to or try to argue with your Inner Critic

If you treat your Inner Critic as if it were rational, you are setting yourself up for endless struggles This voice is by definition critical and negative; it can’t be argued out of its opinion Counter critical messages with clear, grounded, factual information Do it respectfully and calmly - getting angry or being reactive involves giving away some of your power You might say to yourself: “I hear that you think I am really looking very foolish right now The fact is that your perspective is off base and I am enjoying dancing If I listen to you, I’ll stop enjoying what I’m doing - so I am choosing not to listen to your opinion That is what it is - your opinion ”

As you can see, the key to dealing with self-critical messages is to recognize them, name them, and then respond from a very grounded, factual, adult place within yourself Give them a voice, but not a vote In this way you retain your power, and move forward to make the very most of your time!

Now, ask yourself: What is your next step to start building self-confidence and finding more time?Coach Paula Eder, Ph.D., The Time Finder Expert, has 35 years of success helping individuals and small businesses align time with values.

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Mar 16

Author : Paula EderTime management tips can create transition effectiveness, and help you meet tough times with renewed confidence What makes the difference between challenges you respond to with self-assurance and those that keep you paralyzed or sleepless at night?

Start with your own experience Recall a transition, initially unwelcome, that led to your developing more competence and renewing your faith in yourself Perhaps you lost your footing at first How did you get back on your feet? What new skills did you develop?

Identify the constructive problem solving process This is worth actively validating, because the benefits extend far beyond the initial challenge you have met Transitional effectiveness is a lifelong gift It will invigorate you, enhancing your overall productivity

Transitional effectiveness is not a gene you either possess or lack It is simply a set of basic tools you can acquire, practice and add to any time Here are some of the most versatile tools you can utilize during tough times

Do not be taken in by their apparent simplicity Their power derives from consistent use And you will enjoy the best results by incorporating them into your daily routine

Your Transitional Tool Chest:

Transition Technique #1: Constructive self-talk

You always benefit by encouraging yourself Become your own favorite coach as you assess and assign priorities, and fire the critic

Transition Technique #2: Simplify

Let go of inessentials that drain your energy Change requires resilience and foresight, so eliminate distractions Encourage yourself to deal with uncomfortable tasks immediately The peace of mind this brings translates into more energy for the remainder of your work

Transition Technique #3: Don’t worry Strategize instead

Any time you catch yourself worrying, write down the realistic concern and commit to conducting a problem-solving session at a scheduled time Then fully participate in your current moment This, too, is an excellent energy recharger

Transition Technique #4: Cultivate the positive

These 2 simple exercises provide immediate, dramatic benefits:

Exercise A: The Opening Door:

For every loss, there is a gain What door opens when a current door closes? The more forward-looking you become, the more quickly you leave fear, self-pity and resentment behind Write down the potential gains, filing your notes where you can easily access them Refer to your Opening Door notes often This helps you survey your options with curiosity, not fear

Exercise B: The Gratitude Attitude:

Every day, first thing in the morning and before bedtime, list 3 things you are genuinely grateful for Write them down and look at them Reflect on which time choices contribute to these gifts

Transition Technique #5: Innovate

Change pushes you outside your comfort zone Rather than become rigid, encourage yourself to try new solutions The more consistently you do this, the easier it becomes Gradually, you will move from a scarcity mentality to an abundance mentality, as your attention shifts from external hardships to your internal wealth of ideas

However difficult your current situation, and however profound your losses, celebrate the resilience of your spirit Your life is change, and always will be Bring positive energy to transitions It will always reward you richly

So ask yourself: How can you start clarifying your priorities right now to find time for what matters the most to you?Coach Paula Eder, Ph.D., The Time Finder Expert, has 35 years of success helping individuals and small businesses align time with values.

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Mar 10

Author : Paula EderTime management tips enrich you when you dedicate your energies to capitalizing on opportunities that tough times always present And aligning wise time choices with your deepest beliefs accomplishes far more

Every challenge you embrace with life-affirming time choices actually generates new personal power, reducing stress and enhancing appreciation Consider the power of the gratitude attitude

Creating a powerful gratitude attitude carries 7 significant benefits:

1 You acknowledge and savor the gifts in your life right now

2 You reduce the urgency that undermines your best efforts

3 Your gratitude helps banish corrosive stress

4 You affirm and reinforce positive time choices that contribute to the gifts in your life

5 You unleash new creativity by reducing your scarcity mentality

6 Your horizon broadens to envision your network of support

7 Gratitude strengthens your social capital, an all-important asset in tough times

“Social capital is the value and cooperation created through social human relationships or networks ” Philanthropic Foundation Canada

Social capital itself fosters connectedness, success and progress in individuals and entire communities Countless studies confirm that building social capital leads to people living longer, happier lives, enjoying more successful careers, and bouncing back more quickly from major setbacks

Here’s a quick gratitude exercise to build social capital daily:

Write a brief note of thanks to someone who has brightened your day Send it without expectation of response, and warm yourself with your own inner glow

By telling someone, either verbally or in writing, how much you appreciate them and their choices, you create a path for a positive connection You let the other person know that she has been seen and that her actions are significant to you

It is particularly helpful that you validate others in concrete, specific ways For example, you might say, “I really appreciate your suggestions for revising my project Your feedback helped improve the outcome, and you provided ideas in such a thoughtful way ” This acknowledges both the concrete tangible and intangible contributions that the other person made

Genuine interactions such as these create a base of positive communication on which to build an open-handed relationship Such validations demonstrate you don’t take them for granted, which promotes harmony and good will

You may ask, “How can I build social capital if I don’t expect and don’t receive a response?”

The answer is that social capital blossoms in a climate of good will When you are genuinely grateful and express it, you need nothing more Yet, you complete a very important cycle of outreach Positive associations flourish, and when problems arise, a strong supportive base promotes frank and caring exchanges to resolve the issues

Also, notice how much easier it is to be in the moment when you are open! You can even enjoy time while stranded in traffic at stoplights considering whom else you would like to thank When you foster the gratitude attitude, the benefits multiply, and you develop a fresh appreciation for just how well you can really use your time

As an exercise, ask yourself: How can you start clarifying your priorities today to start finding more time?Coach Paula Eder, Ph.D., The Time Finder Expert, has 35 years of success helping individuals and small businesses align time with values.

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Mar 01

Author : Paula EderTime management tips are the ultimate energy tools To select the right tools for your energy type, take the quiz below If you discover you are an introvert, prepare to magnify your effectiveness by using time strategies designed to capitalize on your unique attributes

According to Marti Olsen Lani, author of The Introvert Advantage, introvert strengths include independence, capacity to work well in one-to-one situations, ability to concentrate closely on tasks, creativity, and capacity to analyze systems

If you are introverted, your experience of time may differ dramatically from that of your extroverted colleagues So apply your creativity and originality to making the most of time in ways that celebrate your uniqueness

Quiz: Do You Possess an Introvert Time and Energy Temperament?

T/F: I think through what I need to say before speaking
T/F: When working with others, I can run out of energy with no warning
T/F: My creativity is fueled through solitude

If you answer these questions with “True”, then the 5 tips in this article apply directly to you Briefly stated, your introvert strength multiplies when you remove distractions and look inward At the same time, you need to protect your energy in situations that extroverts find regenerative

5 Ways Introverts Can Supercharge Their Productivity

Time Tip#1: Estimate your “battery life” for group interchanges and plan accordingly

How long can you engage at top capacity in a large group situation? Plan how you can obtain ‘time outs’ to recharge your internal batteries before walking into challenging situations (Introverts can find it difficult to monitor and safeguard their reserves while absorbed in demanding interchanges ) Your exit strategies may include volunteering for tasks that temporarily remove you from the fray, or that allow you to record rather than directly engage in interactions

Time Tip#2: Schedule private time between group activities whenever possible

Restorative sips of time are an excellent investment in your effectiveness If a relaxed, solitary interlude is not possible, consider taking small breaks of five to ten minutes between meetings, if only to make photocopies or fetch supplies While on your own, conduct a quick body scan and progressively relax tense muscles, while taking a few deep breaths

Time Tip#3: Structure collaborations as one-on-one interchanges whenever possible

Identify which individuals you work with most easily, and ask if they would be willing to serve as point persons to report findings to groups Volunteer to cover responsibilities you find less taxing, in return When you must discuss issues within a group, explore the possibilities of teleconferencing This reduces the intensity of stimulus you are exposed to

Time Tip#4: Know your “solitary strengths” and capitalize on them

Invest your time in your areas of personal strength Consider your appetite for research, experimentation and innovation Are there areas of exploration in which your persistence serves as a valuable asset? The more detailed your understanding of how you can best contribute to group endeavors, the more capably you can engage in ways that don’t drain you

Time Tip#5: Commit to checking in as regularly as needed through email and notes

You can send memos with your comments and suggestions after meetings Alert your coworkers in advance as to how and when they can expect to hear from you Remember, your extroverted colleagues may feel stranded if you withdraw without providing a context

Comprehension fuels creativity, so always be on the lookout for new possibilities as you explore your unique relationship with time

So now, ask yourself: How can you customize your time use today to jump-start your personal productivity?Coach Paula Eder, Ph.D., The Time Finder Expert, has 35 years of success helping individuals and small businesses align time with values.

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Mar 01

Author : Lance ThoringtonOrganize your week, your month, the quarter, the whole year Organize your entire life with Dry Erase Calendar You can just erase and made changes, add more appointments or just squeeze in a meeting As many as you can take, they are completely re-usable and thats what makes them unique

Be it office, work, business or home, you can use them even to combine your office and personal commitments and deadlines More and more people are buying it as they just love it compared to the traditional ways of planning

Unlike your normal diaries, you can erase cancelled appointments or postponed lunches They still look neat and easy to read without clutter When you look at the calendar, you feel you have things under control and everything is planned neatly You can be proud of yourself for being proactive

They are great Goodbye gifts for people leaving work and could also be presented to a busy mum and wife When you have kids and two working people at home, you absolutely need one of these It can simplify your lives to a great extent

How many of us have missed that really important meeting or errand? That will ever happen again with this calendar Save yourself of unnecessary hassles such as double bookings and clashing of events You will be the star of your team

Light and easy to carry around, if you are a very mobile person Some people who have bought it feel they have more free time than every Thats because in one glance you know what you are doing that week or day

Organizing your staff, events, holidays will never be so easy It is big enough and can also serve as a notice board, so others can work around it and know where they stand Put it up on the bulletin board on the home refrigerator Even at the reception desk for your customers information

There are many calendars available, while some are small to write more than two events, others are time consuming to use But not with dry erase calendar There is plenty of place to write With the days printed, you can use it the way you want

Its dries as your write and erase So its not messy and hygienic too You can always bold or highlight the important dates They are absolutely versatile, so use it to your benefit So next time there is a stationery request coming around, put in yours as dry erase calendar

In today’s life when we are flooded with information, its easy to over look or miss out But with one of these calendars, you will feel like top of everything Finish your projects before the deadlines and pay your bills on the due date

There are many versions of erase boards available and this is just one of them You may have come across them in schools and hospitals

It can take whatever your life has to hold- birthdays, medical appointments, special occasions, anniversaries, due dates and much more So next time you want to remember an upcoming moment, reach out for your calendar Professional writer and online publisher Lance Thorington has
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Mar 01

Author : Laura StackPretty much anybody you ask will tell you they’re pressed for time There just aren’t enough hours to get it all done, yadda yadda yadda So we prioritize, streamline, and simplify You can improve your efficiency until you’re blue in the face, not to mention very tightly wound, but you still aren’t addressing one of the biggest time and energy wasters in your day: incoming information As my 12-year-old daughter, Meagan, would text on her phone: “TMI” (translation: Too Much Information)

If the 21st century has brought us anything, it is WAY too much information You can watch several channels full of cable news 24 hours a day You can surf the internet on any topic until you can’t see straight Most people could heat their home with the amount of junk mail they receive on a continuous basis Imagine the time and productivity lost just sorting though it all!

So why not join me in 2008 and put yourself on a low-information diet? Make this the year that you say “NO MORE!” to the endless onslaught of time-wasting, productivity-eating, stress-inducing STUFF coming at you

Here are a few ideas to get you started:

Skip the news I haven’t regularly watched the news or read a newspaper in fifteen years Some people are shocked when they hear me say that But I’m shocked when people confess how much time they waste each day reading their latest blog postings Think about what you really gain by being a news junkie To be honest, most of the news out there just isn’t the kind of thing that really impacts my family, my business, or me And quite frankly, a big chunk of what gets reported will do little more than make me feel angry or even depressed So if your job or your natural sense of curiosity don’t prohibit it, consider a very low-news diet Believe me: my selective ignorance has never caused me a single problem and allows me to focus my energy and attention

Never meet in person to give information What’s the number one complaint most people have when it comes to office productivity? Meetings! Why do we do it to ourselves? Do we really leave with the decisions that made spending the time worthwhile? Or are we just regurgitating information that’s already been provided elsewhere? Does the speaker stand there and read the PowerPoint slides he just emailed to you? Hello? If you already have the slides - you could have just read them yourself

Phone conferences are even worse: they take much longer than an in-person meeting, because participants are checking email and fiddling with their computers Create a pact with your team members or department mates to never again have an in-person meeting or phone conference where you are simply conveying information Put it on the intranet or compile it into a single email that goes out once a week Keep the high cost of the in-person meeting at ebay when the purpose is a simple transfer of low-value information

Use the phone strategically What about meetings with people outside of your office-vendors and clients, for example? How many times have you spent weeks trying to set up an appointment, only to have it rescheduled at the last minute? Once the meeting actually happens, it costs you a huge piece of your day

If you have a thirty minute meeting that requires an hour’s worth of driving, decide if the time would be better spent with a phone call Are you really getting better information in person? Nine times out of ten these meetings could be handled in a tiny fraction of the time, if only they were replaced with a quick phone call Skip the commute, keep the gas money, and save yourself a ton of time You may even find that your clients view your respect for THEIR time as refreshing and will appreciate it to no end

The mailman knocks one hundred times The U S Postal Service does not come running to your home, ring your bell, and hand you one piece of mail at a time, multiple times a day It’s batched and delivered once If only we could follow the same principle with electronic mail I’m not recommending you only check your in-box once a day - I believe that’s unrealistic - but you should still try to cut down You can’t focus on a task requiring concentration with your in-box open

I process my e-mail just a handful of times each day It’s easy to be in the habit of checking the instant you hear that little ding, but think about what you’re doing to yourself What percentage of incoming email is important? 10 percent? 25 percent? Two percent? If the majority of incoming email is unimportant and represents information you don’t need (there are donuts in the cafeteria), why would you stop working on the most important task of the day to see if one makes the cut? You’re letting everyone else dictate your day to you by immediately stopping your productive work and redirecting your attention to an e-mail that is probably not that important anyway Then you need to refocus your attention and try to get back on track with whatever you were doing

After the 50-200 emails you receive each day, just think how many times per hour your productive activities must come to a grinding halt Maybe - just maybe - you’re doing it, on purpose, as an excuse to NOT to have to do the hard work you should be doing

Make the decision NOW Many decisions are put off because people are waiting for more information How much do you need? Sometimes enough is good enough You will never be able to analyze all the in’s and out’s of every decision, and there will always be more information out there you didn’t consider Gather enough information and make the best decision you can with the information you have Things can always change

My father always told me to take initiative and ask forgiveness, not permission In the early days of my career, I just handled things for my managers without asking If they were gone, I answered for them Sometimes it was the wrong answer to be sure, but I’ve always been praised for trying to save my boss some time and force some movement, rather than being berated for the wrong action I wish more people would just get some brass and DECIDE Stop getting approvals from a million people to cover your backside You’re making everyone around you crazy Sometimes it is much more efficient to go with the information you have, make the WRONG decision, and make adjustments if necessary, than to waste time being indecisive

Empower your people Eric Hoffer, the late American social philosopher, once said, “Far more crucial than what we know or do not know is what we do not want to know ” My husband and COO, John, has asked me several times if I’d like to learn to use the postage machine in our office I’ve always staunchly declined I have absolutely no desire to learn how to use it I enjoy being purposefully ignorant about that machine, since I have no business running it

When my assistant, Katie (who sits near me by design), casually asks me a question on the postal machine, I can honestly say, “I have no idea You’ll have to get with someone else ” My staff needs to learn to be problem solving people and handle challenges they experience in the areas they’ve been charged to run, just as I do They can’t handle my areas of responsibility, and I refuse to handle theirs - and I unabashedly hold them accountable for their own results I’m happy to get them training or pay for assistance, but you should never do those things personally that can be done by someone else at a lower pay level You’ll kill yourself Give your people the authority they need to make decisions and get things done If you don’t, you’ll find they consistently create more work for you, not less

Cut, cut, cut Don’t lose your focus as the year goes on Cut, streamline, and reduce Cancel magazine subscriptions Get rid of the junk you haven’t used in a year Let all calls you don’t recognize go to voicemail Unsubscribe from all newsletters you haven’t specifically requested Go out and find things you determine you need to buy, rather than having salespeople feed you information about more things you’ll buy but won’t use If your clients keep asking you for the same information over and over again, put it on your website and let new clients know in advance where to find it These are just a few examples about how you can deal with less information Hope you lose lots of weight on your low-information diet and make 2009 - GREAT!Laura Stack is a personal productivity expert, author, and professional speaker who helps busy workers Leave the Office Earlier(R) with Maximum Results in Minimum Time(TM). To have Laura speak at your next event, call 303-471-7401. Visit http://www.TheProductivityPro.com to sign up for her free monthly productivity newsletter.

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